Wednesday, March 5, 2014
I think it is important to constantly ask yourself “what matters most?” Life can be all consuming and we often get caught up in the hustle and bustle of living. Much of our time is spent rushing trying to get it all done. But when it is all said and done what do you place the most value on? What are the moments and things that have a lasting positive impact on your existence? Too often, we forget to cherish the moments and those that make our lives valuable.
The next time you find yourself more concerned with getting the chores done than spending time together talking, laughing, walking, etc. pause and ask yourself, “what matters most?” My grandma always tells me to go and enjoy when the opportunity presents because the dust will always be there, as will the laundry, vacuuming, and more.
Are you wagging more and barking less? If not, why not. Is it important to be right and win an argument or share an embrace and a soft kiss? The next time you find yourself frustrated or in disagreement with those you say you love the most, ask yourself, “what matters most?” Is it important to spend your time with anger, frustration, tension between you or is it more valuable to call truce? Agree to disagree or come back to the topic when both have had a chance to step back.
We each get to decide how it is we want to live and exist. We can worry, be upset, anxious, too busy and beyond. Or we can stay present, content, joyful, kind, grateful, and happy for each opportunity that is our life. Figure out, all that matters most, and nurture that as your way of living!
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
What do you want? Health, Hope, Love, Money, Friendship, Patience, Home, Engagement, Kindness, Empathy, Work, Happiness, Stability, Weight Loss/Gain, Success, Presence, Inspiration, Trust, Strength, Perseverance, Knowledge….. what is it that you wish for? The truth is we each can have all that we desire; we just have to make the choice to do that which is necessary to lead our lives to that we yearn for.
Possibly start by thinking about what it is you truly want…financial freedom, a romantic partnership, professional success….whatever it is reflect on what choices you are currently making that are preventing you from your fruition. We are not only responsible for creating the lives we want to live, we are typically the source for when things are not going in the direction we desire. Many times it is our internal and personal fears that prevent us from achieving. We have to stop blocking ourselves and learn to go for it!
We can talk about what we want or we can go after it, relentlessly. Now is the time to go get all that you want. Time keeps passing by and it is time for you to become the driver of your destiny. Commit today to attaining that which has been absent. You can do it and you should do it. Your fulfillments are at your fingertips….Choose; The Choice is Always YOURS!
Wednesday, February 19, 2014
I write this on the eve before my 40th birthday. One of my goals for this past year was to get in the best shape of my life before I turned 40. I have maintained my healthy eating habits and I have continued to work out 5-6 days a week. I have mixed up my exercise by increasing the amount of running I am doing. On the days I am not running I am participating in Pilates and/or weight routines. This year has challenged me because it has been the hardest ever to maintain my figure, regardless of what I am doing. My stomach looks the worst it has in years and it seems no matter how many squats or lunges I do, my legs will not conform to be shapely with any muscle definition.
I am mentally healthier and happier than ever before. I am financially fit and on track for all my fiscal goals which will provide me the ability to retire very early. I am in the best companionship that I could not have dreamt, but so thankfully is my reality. I am supported by the most amazing family and friends. I am learning, growing, and stretching beyond my wildest imagination all from a young man who has become one of the greatest joys, but also it is he who makes me think harder than ever because I want to be the best role model imaginable for him and his young mind. I have achieved all professional goals and continue to strive for more at the university. I have accomplished what I wanted with Wondrous Women and am so close to launching a new venture (within weeks). I am a published author; this past year I collaborated on 2 books and released my own motivational read. I have maintained my beautiful home, garden, and yard while working full time and living between two homes. I have run a 5K and am training for a 10K this year with our beautiful dogs.
So, I ask myself again, am I in the best shape of my life? My goal is no longer to look the best but rather to be the best! Being in the best shape to me means being mentally, emotionally, and financially solid. It means being kind and considerate. It means helping others be their very best, accomplish their goals, and doing my part to make this world a better place for our children and theirs to come. So, if I expand my view of the question to be more complete, I would say I am definitely making strides to be in the best shape of my life!! Lets all think bigger and braoder and be the best version of ourselves by collectively being in the best shape of our lives!
This morning I thought to myself as I stared at my reflection in the mirror, “so did you meet your goal of being in the best shape of my life?” I actually burst out loud laughing and thought what does that really mean and WHY am I only defining myself by my physical appearance? If I actually focused on my true values instead of the rolls and stretching of my skin I would have a much different answer.
If we each individually reflect on all that encompasses our lives, why is the emphasis always on our figures? Why are we so harsh on our bodies when that is not who or what we are? We individually are our worst critics; we are putting too much emphasis on the shell that we are packaged in. When in reality we are all so much more. We are mothers, caregivers, lovers, friends, co-workers, creators, teachers, service oriented citizens……we are SO MUCH MORE!!! These are the things we should be setting milestones for! These are the things that truly matter, make a difference, and that which deserves to be celebrated!
Wednesday, February 12, 2014
Every person I know has some sort of internal struggle with their body. I, too, have daily thoughts and concerns about what my external machinery looks like. I often wonder if what I see is reality or if I like so many have distorted body image. Then there are also those moments where I wonder if that is just an excuse and a wish that what I saw was not reality. Regardless, too many of us focus on our outside form and rarely take the time to appreciate and cherish the shell we live in.
Today I am feeling less than par, primarily because I keep having some random allergic reaction that makes my face become bright red, swell, and have hives all don my neck. It has been so bad at times that my eyes actually swelled shut…. Not a pretty site. On top of my enflamed appearance, my colitis has been out of control for the past 3 or more weeks. It seems it does not matter what I eat; I am struggling to manage it at the present time.
After running to the bathroom, I walked out of the stall to my full length reflection staring at me. I started laughing and thought why am I so harsh and critical of this body? Considering all it goes through and tolerates it is truthfully one awesome machine. Not only does it take a toll from ailments that travel through, but It still allows me to be as active as I want. My knees are holding up so I can run 5 days a week, I am able snowboard, waterski, surf, and continue to participate and enjoy all the physical activities that I love. I do my very best to eat healthy and maintain a balance workout regime to keep not only my shell in shape but my heart and all internal organs as well.
My 40th birthday is around the corner and rather than worry about the dropping of various body parts, I think I need to be more grateful for all the good going on with my physique. I am so fortunate to be in a very healthy and happy partnership with someone who tells me daily how he adores my internal and external beauty. I think I need to take cue from him and start reminding myself daily how stunning my machinery is. It takes on a lot and accordingly deserves to be cherished, my body, my machinery.
Won’t each of you, as well, consider being kinder to your body. Recognize all the amazingness and embrace all that it endures. The mind and body work in collaboration and if we would turn our thoughts about our physique to be kinder and more uplifting, maybe our machines would not only match, but mirror our sentiments. Our shells are powerful and capable of shifting as we do; they take shape from the direction we lead them in. Let’s all be better about cherishing our bodies, our machine.